Back to School

Life Coaching
It’s that time of year again: We buy all the school supplies and clothes, lunchboxes, and pencil cases. There is an excitement in the air as young children count down the days to be back in school. We anticipate an environment conducive to learning and developing social skills, along with fun times on the playground with friends. As I was reflecting on my own students returning, I had this thought: What constitutes a proficient student? Good grades, social growth and healthy friends that make the day go by quickly. Let’s look at the “student” through a different lens. Am I a good student? Who am I learning from and what am I learning? In this season of “back to school,” let’s remember to be open to learning and understanding others at a higher level and becoming the best…
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We Need Each Other: Lessons from the Patience Principle

Life Coaching, Mentoring, Servant Leadership
The Patience Principle - The journey with others is slower than the journey alone.  I experienced the reality of this principle recently when I was traveling abroad with my husband, my parents, my brother, and my grandparents. Of the seven of us, most had little to no international travel experience coming into the trip, but my grandparents had been to our destination many times. They knew the routes, the towns, they knew where we’d be going, what we’d be doing, and the people we would meet up with. And they were TSA pre-checked.  Had it been just the two of them traveling, they would have zoomed through the airport and been off on their way. Yet their patience prevailed when we all, in small waves of two or three, slowly…
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Recommendations from the TTG Book Shelf this Month:

Life Coaching, Ministry Opportunities, Servant Leadership
In order for us to grow and give to others, we need to stay intentional about pouring into ourselves. We also know that takes time and intentionality, so we thought we would pass along several recommendations we have read over the past month in case you have been looking for some great reads. Be challenged and inspired to apply to your own life and enjoy!  Nehemiah (Bible)  Nehemiah shows us an example of what a prayerful leader looks like while encountering opposition, trusting God and moving forward with a plan.  The Last Arrow: Save Nothing for the Next Life by Erwin MacManus Drawing from the life and story of Elisha, MacManus offers a challenge to all of us to live our lives to the fullest, to stop wasting time and…
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The Five Actions of Great Leaders

Life Coaching, Servant Leadership, Speaking Topics
Developing leadership potential can seem like a daunting challenge. In his book, The Five Temptations of a CEO, Patrick Lencioni simplifies the art of leadership by describing five active characteristics of great leaders. 1. Building Trust  Great leaders know that vulnerability builds trust. They acknowledge their own weaknesses first; people already know them anyway. Authentically acknowledging their own mistakes and growth areas builds trust with the team. 2. Establishing Healthy Conflict  Great leaders don’t passively choose harmony over conflict. They seek to be peacemakers, rather than merely peacekeepers. They allow and encourage collaborative, engaging discussions to take place.  3. Providing Clarity   Great leaders commit to commitments by establishing parameters upfront. Deadlines are great accountability partners, plus Clarity reduces Confusion.  4. Holding People Accountable  Great leaders don’t choose popularity over accountability…
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Canoe Trips

Life Coaching, Servant Leadership, Speaking Topics
Three friends went on a canoe trip. It was a beautiful summer day and the river height was perfect.  The ripples of the water and the current slapping the banks was soothing and added to the wonderful views of wildlife and nature surrounding the three friends and their adventure.   As the day progressed, Bob, who was sitting in the center of the canoe, was getting tired and paddled less and less and finally just left his paddle in the water in fear that Joe, who was in the front of the canoe, and Bill, who was in the rear of the canoe, would notice that Bob was no longer contributing to the progress of the canoe. In fact, he was beginning to be a drag.   At some point…
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Foxhole Friends

Life Coaching, Servant Leadership, Speaking Topics
When I was a kid, my favorite Bible story was that of David and Jonathan. It seems interesting that out of all the colorful, vivacious stories that are painted throughout Scripture—the floods and lions and giants and whales, the multiplication of bread and fish, and miraculous returns to life—my childhood self chose a simple story of friendship.  I’m not sure what it was that made the story of David and Jonathan stand out in my young mind. But looking back on the story, I’m reminded of the exemplary model of friendship that these two men lived.  Jonathan, the son of King Saul, befriended David, the chosen successor of King Saul. As the son of the king, Jonathan could have become jealous of David, feeling he was stealing the throne from…
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Mindset Matters

Life Coaching, Speaking Topics
Recently, I had the opportunity to visit Top Golf, an entertainment venue featuring fun golf games. I had a great time with my family but to be honest, my skill needed some work. The first 15 out of 20 balls I hit missed the mark every time. Attempt after attempt, I tried to do something different to improve and in golf, it turns out you have to do everything at the same time. :) So I tried to straighten my grip, lengthen my follow through, keep my head down and turn my feet just so; and I continued to struggle to hit those targets. Wanting to keep things in perspective, I battled to keep my frustration from grabbing a hold of my attitude and giving up. The truth was I wasn’t very good at this…. yet. But as…
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Happy or Healthy?

Life Coaching, Servant Leadership, Speaking Topics
“My name is Bruce and I’m a recovering people-pleaser.” In the past, I would spend the majority of my time keeping people happy… while remaining frustrated at the lack of progress and growth. I discovered that the happier I tried to keep people, the more unhealthy things became—both within the organization, and within myself. I’ve also seen this a lot in the many organizations and teams that I’ve spent time with, in the workplace and beyond. This is what has propelled me to move toward and promote what I’m finding to be a huge culture shift needed in our homes, businesses, churches and organizations. The Culture Shift: Moving from a Happy Culture to a Healthy Culture. Giving candy to your kids to quiet them down will make them happy, but not…
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Learning and Leading

Life Coaching, Servant Leadership, Speaking Topics
My desire is to learn something from each person I come in contact with on a daily basis, whether for a few minutes or hours. A couple weeks ago I was engaging with another individual through one-on-one coaching, and I came away forever challenged with a statement this gentleman shared with me.   The question was simple: What is the difference between confidence and arrogance?  He sat up straight cleared his throat and, with a clear and confident voice, spoke these words: “Confidence is quiet and arrogance is loud.”  I will admit the initial statement was zipping through my mind at a high rate of speed, then everything slowed down. I began to process this simple phrase, and will continue to in the coming weeks.     As I process this…
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T-H-I-N-K

Life Coaching, Mentoring, Speaking Topics
I recently read Josh Shipp’s book, The Grown-Up’s Guide to Teenage Humans. For anyone who interacts with teenagers—be it parents, teachers, mentors, grandparents, coaches—this is a great resource and tool for learning the needs and communication preferences of teens at every stage of adolescence.  One of the topics Josh addressed is engaging with social media. While he was speaking primarily about teen engagement on the internet, I think this guideline can be a helpful tool for all of us to remember as we post content online, speak to one another, and engage with people of all ages.  Josh shared the following acronym with its reminder to THINK before we post (or speak, etc.). We must ask, is it: T - True? H - Helpful? I - Inspiring? N - Necessary?…
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