Game Changers! Bring change to the way you think and live

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[caption id="attachment_269" align="alignleft" width="167"] Download Game Changers for FREE![/caption] “Let the wise listen and add to their learning and let the discerning get guidance.”   Proverbs 1:5 Over the years in my various leadership positions of coaching, mentoring, pastoring, counseling and parenting, I have had the privilege of facilitating and participating in many leadership learning initiatives. I’ve done my best to add to my learning and to get guidance as the above proverb states by utilizing my two ears and one mouth in that ratio. If you know me, you know that’s hard for me sometimes, but I’ve tried. As I’ve listened to many people, I’ve also collected a lot of chicken scratch notes and have quickly jotted down thoughts and ideas which would pop into my head while reading or engaging in…
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Grace Driven Holiness

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As we think about celebrating the birth of Christ this Christmas, we can’t help but think of a stable and a manger. But this Christmas, all I can think about is a cross. I think we can all relate when I say that the human condition lends itself to trying to earn God’s acceptance by what we “do”, by meeting expectations or by our performance. Our focus can become self-centered and we can be driven by keeping rules, a check-list of what we are or are not doing. Some of us may hope our good deeds outweigh our bad, some of us may fear failing or the disapproval of others. Some of us may deal with perfectionism because doing it “perfectly” makes us somehow more pleasing. I think all of…
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Secure to Serve

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Our teenage son is a coach through and through. When he sets a goal for himself, he is disciplined and committed to reach it, no matter what it is. He works hard and puts the time in, and because of that, he sees results. Because he is wired with leadership ability, he motivates others to set goals and follow through. When he heard me talking about working out, he felt compelled to create a plan for me for the next two months. He would ask me every day if I had done my workout, giving me an encouraging word if I had followed through. One evening after it was already dark outside, I sat in the kitchen talking to him as he finished doing the dishes. As usual he asked…
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Cravings and Contentment

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Unfortunately, we all have the natural tendency to deal with a "rabble spirit," eyes that look to the negative and a heart of ingratitude and self-sufficiency. Exploring the OT story of Numbers 11, we see a generous God who gave everything the Israelites needed, but they continued to want something else. It's a lesson that challenges our own hearts, but we can find hope and the solution to combating our grumbling in learning contentment. Join Bruce and Jocelyn as they explore "Cravings and Contentment." https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/cco-craving-and-contentment/id623366602?i=345394868&mt=2
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“Have To” or “Get To”

Life Coaching, Mentoring, Servant Leadership
(Adapted from Jon Gordon article) Who knew that two simple words could change one’s mindset, perspective and approach to work and life? Just two words have the potential to enhance joy, productivity, performance and change a complaining voice to an appreciative heart. So often we say things like, “I have to take the kids to practice.” “I have to go to this meeting.” “I have to finish this project.” “I have to have the conversation to clear things up with them.” “I have to go to work today.” “I have to take care of this customer.” “I have to share these new ideas of change with my team.” We act as if we don’t have a choice. As if we are imprisoned by life, maybe a paycheck and the expectations…
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Bouncing Back from a Failure

Life Coaching
Many of us are afraid to fail which can hinder our growth and even paralyze us in making decisions. But take into account these words of wisdom from psychologist, Dr. Ryan Dunn. Everybody fails…. With things big or small, sooner or later, in private or (embarrassing) in public, with projects or relationships, we all fail. So the skill of bouncing back from a failure is one that is important to develop, to help us get back on track over and over and over…. A recent study in the journal Anxiety, Stress & Coping, found the most effective ways of bouncing back are positive reframing, acceptance, and humor. These helped people recover the fastest and still feel most satisfied at the end of the day. Positive reframing is thinking about a situation…
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Life Isn’t Fair….But God Is

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Meeting with a 15 year old whose good friend gave in to depression and committed suicide reminded me once again of the many silent sufferers in our midst. As this young man and his friends were trying to come to grips of the realities and aftermath of this traumatic event, two truths came to mind that I was able to share with him. 1. I’m not convinced that anyone in their “right mind” could ever commit such an act. Many people need medication to help with bodily organs like the heart, liver, kidneys etc. However, when it comes to all the physiological connectors in the brain not connecting, causing the brain to not function properly, the “mental health” stigma often wins out and we’re slower to receive medicine because of…
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A Gift in Every Moment

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Several years ago, I had the privilege of working at a retirement community as a chaplain. I learned so much from those that lived there- they had such a strong faith, wisdom gleaned through the years and a perspective that challenged my thinking every day. One day I was facilitating a Bible study and asked the question, “How do you experience God?” One man, without hesitation answered, “With every breath I take. With every breath I take, I experience the presence of God.” Awesome. What a reminder of God’s faithfulness, His unconditional love, His desire to be near to us, His heart for us. Immanel—God with us. As I reflect on this man’s statement, I also see that with every breath we take, we can experience God’s “presents.” Our lives…
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Time for Change

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There's a saying a good friend of mine told me once that I'll never forget: "The most successful people aren't necessarily the most intelligent, but those who are willing to adapt their thinking to change." So much of my life this past year has changed that there's simply not enough room to tell you, and I'd have no idea where to begin. I will say, though, the very beginning of this new journey in life started with a single step of faith. A few years ago, I saw a friend of mine do the exact same thing... no idea what he was going to do next, no idea how he'd provide for his family and no idea how to stop the nagging desire to ask "why." But he did it.…
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Perspective Changes Everything

Life Coaching, Mentoring, Speaking Topics
In order to go forward in life, in situations, in emotions, in relationships, in forgiveness, in health, many times we need to change our current perspective. Our mind is one of the greatest weapons we possess. Our thoughts can fuel victory or defeat in every situation. Victory doesn't always look like obtaining the results we want. Victory is being able to shift perspective, lean into Christ and trust Him in the results. Changing perspective comes when we slow down emotionally and step back to take in the entire picture. It means to reframe our situation, come at it from a different angle, and think outside the box. It means asking myself, "What can I learn from this situation?" It means stepping back, identifying lies, detecting our typical patterns of thinking…
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