Learning and Leading

Life Coaching, Servant Leadership, Speaking Topics
My desire is to learn something from each person I come in contact with on a daily basis, whether for a few minutes or hours. A couple weeks ago I was engaging with another individual through one-on-one coaching, and I came away forever challenged with a statement this gentleman shared with me.   The question was simple: What is the difference between confidence and arrogance?  He sat up straight cleared his throat and, with a clear and confident voice, spoke these words: “Confidence is quiet and arrogance is loud.”  I will admit the initial statement was zipping through my mind at a high rate of speed, then everything slowed down. I began to process this simple phrase, and will continue to in the coming weeks.     As I process this…
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T-H-I-N-K

Life Coaching, Mentoring, Speaking Topics
I recently read Josh Shipp’s book, The Grown-Up’s Guide to Teenage Humans. For anyone who interacts with teenagers—be it parents, teachers, mentors, grandparents, coaches—this is a great resource and tool for learning the needs and communication preferences of teens at every stage of adolescence.  One of the topics Josh addressed is engaging with social media. While he was speaking primarily about teen engagement on the internet, I think this guideline can be a helpful tool for all of us to remember as we post content online, speak to one another, and engage with people of all ages.  Josh shared the following acronym with its reminder to THINK before we post (or speak, etc.). We must ask, is it: T - True? H - Helpful? I - Inspiring? N - Necessary?…
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Guard the Unity

Life Coaching, Servant Leadership, Speaking Topics
Unity is a big deal- whether in a marriage, a coaching staff, or in any team. Unity keeps us on mission and helps us persevere to reach our goals. It values and validates the need for each team member and the significant role they play. It reminds us that results together go further than results alone. I’ve heard it said that individuals win trophies, but teams win championships. No matter what context, the concept stands true. Because unity is so valuable and a key to health and success, we would be wise to know how to protect it: Communication. Take time to communicate and answer as many questions as you can. What questions don’t get answered, the team will fill in the blanks with their own truth. Be proactive and…
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Think Again

Life Coaching, Mentoring, Speaking Topics
We will eventually do what we think.   This statement is taken directly from one of the Character Development Initiatives that we use at Toward the Goal.  While sharing this with a team I was challenged with several questions. What or who influences my thinking on a regular basis? How do I take captive thoughts that are not helpful? How do I filter my thoughts? What does it take for me to change the way I think? As a leader people will tend to think like you do over time.  One of our daily goals should include a reflection on the day and our thought processes.  We can gain valuable insight when we take the time to reflect and ask the question, Why did I think that way?   Proverbs…
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Internal and External Customers

Life Coaching, Servant Leadership, Speaking Topics
There are two types of customers, internal and external. By nature, we’ve typically been led to believe that the most important customers are the ones that walk through our doors and purchase our products. In reality, the most important customers we encounter by far are the internal ones we come into contact with on a daily basis: Our co-workers. With external customers, we do everything we can to treat them in a way so as to gain their trust and ultimately their repeat business. If I’m working with someone on a day-to-day, hour-to-hour basis and they’re not “buying what I’m selling,” it’s going to be an uphill battle. However, if I am trustworthy and therefore, worthy of their “repeat business,” the entire culture and organization will flourish beyond belief. If…
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Reflections on Perseverance

Life Coaching, Speaking Topics
Life is real and raw. We all walk through hard things and deal with brokenness. Illness, injustice, difficult or shattered relationships, unstable home lives, grief and loss, the realization that a + b doesn’t always equal c; we can all fill in the blank with something that’s touched us. Seasons can sometimes pass slowly as we reel and grapple with questions, waiting on God to reveal, heal and redeem our situations; knowing full well that the redemption may just happen in us instead. It’s what I call living in the wait. I would imagine there’s not one of us who couldn’t say that living under the sun can get downright exhausting sometimes. As followers of Christ, how do we persevere? How do we not give up in the wait but…
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Who Are You?

Life Coaching, Servant Leadership, Speaking Topics
Who are you? Seems like an innocent enough question. I am a product of the decisions I have made in the past and will be making in the future.  Scripture tells us who we are. . .  So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; Male and Female he created them. (Genesis 1:27) But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, God’s special possession, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light. (1 Peter 2:9)  1 See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! (1 John 3:1) Recently my son requested a new catcher’s mitt for Christmas. We…
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The Gift that Keeps on Giving

Mentoring, Ministry Opportunities
When you think of a mentor, who comes to mind? Maybe there’s a specific teacher, an aunt, a family friend, a coach, a grandparent, or youth leader who’s spoken into your life, consistently walking alongside you, encouraging you, offering perspective, wisdom, and always a loving, listening ear.  Who have those people been in your life?  January marks National Mentoring Month, a month dedicated to thanking those who have spoken into our lives and considering the impact we too can make on a life if we pass on the gift of mentoring to another.  Not only is mentoring an emotional and relational encouragement—statistics show that mentoring has tangible benefits to individuals who have a mentor: 55% more likely to enroll in college 78% more likely to volunteer regularly 90% are interested…
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Boundaries

Life Coaching, Mentoring, Speaking Topics
Somewhere along the journey I call life I have formed a thought process about God that has really been revealed through reading the book, Boundaries, by Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend.  I have long held a belief that Jesus was longsuffering and somewhat of a doormat with people who he helped to see the light.  Somehow, I had a picture of Jesus waiting around for others and continually going back to the same people. In the book it is said, “All are welcome in the kingdom of Heaven, and yet there will be no unrepentant hearts there.”  This is a clear line that God drew and will never change. God has been showing me that Jesus again and again raised the bar for those around him. They were willing to…
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Beauty in the Broken

Beauty in the Broken

Speaking Topics
Last week, my husband and I were getting ready for work when he pulled out a stick of chapstick. “Oh, this is broken,” he said. “I’ll throw it away.” And immediately, God spoke to my heart. He reminded me that His view of brokenness differs so much from our limited, human perspective. We view things that are broken as being worthless, no longer valuable, and ready to toss out. But He exceeds our human expectations and finite ways of thinking. When God sees broken, He sees potential for  beauty. He sees an opportunity for something beautiful to grow. I love nature, and the beauty of trees and flowers. In the life cycle of a flower, growth is impossible without the brokenness of a seed. It’s surely uncomfortable to be broken…
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