October 2019 Book Recommendations

Book Reviews, Servant Leadership
Mindset: How We Can Learn to Fulfill Our Potential - Dr. Carol Dweck Dr. Carol Dweck shares the difference between a fixed and growth mindset and the importance of choosing which we will use in our daily lives. Most people operate from both, but we tend to lean toward one mindset over the other. Those with a fixed mindset believe they are stuck where they are with no hope of change. Those with a growth mindset believe they have the ability to change and can tap into greater potential. Our thoughts determine how we act, so the mindset we choose to live from directly influences much of our lives. This book is a challenge to reevaluate our minds and how we’re choosing to think; it can also be a great…
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Finding a Friend in Failure

Life Coaching, Servant Leadership, Speaking Topics
There once was a man who, once a week, posed the same question to his children across the dinner table: “How have you failed this week?” he would ask. When his kids struggled to come up with an answer, or realized they did not, in fact, fail at all this week, the father would challenge them: “You’re not taking enough risks,” he’d say, and encourage them to take the risk of failing the following week. I don’t know if you’re at all like me, but I tend to take pride in my fail-free weeks. Failure isn’t something I tend to include in my list of hopes and dreams, and quite frankly, I don’t prefer to flaunt my failures or announce them to the world when they do happen. It’s not…
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A Mentoring Mindset

Mentoring, Ministry Opportunities, Speaking Topics
I heard the story of someone who rolled up to the coffee shop drive-thru window only to discover their coffee had been paid for by the generous person who had been in line in front of them. The amount given well exceeded the cost of their coffee. The employee asked this lucky recipient what he would like to do with the significant amount of change he would receive. If it were you, what would you choose? Would you go ahead and order a couple of sandwiches and desserts as well? Would you take the change and put it in your pocket for lunch, after all it was meant for you, right? Or would you tell the employee to pass on the gift to the persons waiting in the car behind…
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Building Trust and Relationships

Life Coaching, Mentoring, Servant Leadership, Speaking Topics
Trust is defined as “assured reliance on the character, ability, strength, or truth of someone or something.” It’s been said that “We don’t attract what we wish, we attract what we are.” If we want to attract trustworthy people, WE must display these qualities first. We cannot command a person to believe in our character or our ability to lead. Lewis Cass was right when he said, “People will doubt what you say and believe what you do.” How do we build and nurture trust?  The answer is in building relationships with members of the organization. We may tend to think of relationships with fellow employees as less important than our personal relationships. However, we spend one third of our days with the people we work with. It seems wise then that to cultivate these relationships would put…
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Back to School

Life Coaching
It’s that time of year again: We buy all the school supplies and clothes, lunchboxes, and pencil cases. There is an excitement in the air as young children count down the days to be back in school. We anticipate an environment conducive to learning and developing social skills, along with fun times on the playground with friends. As I was reflecting on my own students returning, I had this thought: What constitutes a proficient student? Good grades, social growth and healthy friends that make the day go by quickly. Let’s look at the “student” through a different lens. Am I a good student? Who am I learning from and what am I learning? In this season of “back to school,” let’s remember to be open to learning and understanding others at a higher level and becoming the best…
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We Need Each Other: Lessons from the Patience Principle

Life Coaching, Mentoring, Servant Leadership
The Patience Principle - The journey with others is slower than the journey alone.  I experienced the reality of this principle recently when I was traveling abroad with my husband, my parents, my brother, and my grandparents. Of the seven of us, most had little to no international travel experience coming into the trip, but my grandparents had been to our destination many times. They knew the routes, the towns, they knew where we’d be going, what we’d be doing, and the people we would meet up with. And they were TSA pre-checked.  Had it been just the two of them traveling, they would have zoomed through the airport and been off on their way. Yet their patience prevailed when we all, in small waves of two or three, slowly…
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Recommendations from the TTG Book Shelf this Month:

Life Coaching, Ministry Opportunities, Servant Leadership
In order for us to grow and give to others, we need to stay intentional about pouring into ourselves. We also know that takes time and intentionality, so we thought we would pass along several recommendations we have read over the past month in case you have been looking for some great reads. Be challenged and inspired to apply to your own life and enjoy!  Nehemiah (Bible)  Nehemiah shows us an example of what a prayerful leader looks like while encountering opposition, trusting God and moving forward with a plan.  The Last Arrow: Save Nothing for the Next Life by Erwin MacManus Drawing from the life and story of Elisha, MacManus offers a challenge to all of us to live our lives to the fullest, to stop wasting time and…
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The Five Actions of Great Leaders

Life Coaching, Servant Leadership, Speaking Topics
Developing leadership potential can seem like a daunting challenge. In his book, The Five Temptations of a CEO, Patrick Lencioni simplifies the art of leadership by describing five active characteristics of great leaders. 1. Building Trust  Great leaders know that vulnerability builds trust. They acknowledge their own weaknesses first; people already know them anyway. Authentically acknowledging their own mistakes and growth areas builds trust with the team. 2. Establishing Healthy Conflict  Great leaders don’t passively choose harmony over conflict. They seek to be peacemakers, rather than merely peacekeepers. They allow and encourage collaborative, engaging discussions to take place.  3. Providing Clarity   Great leaders commit to commitments by establishing parameters upfront. Deadlines are great accountability partners, plus Clarity reduces Confusion.  4. Holding People Accountable  Great leaders don’t choose popularity over accountability…
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Canoe Trips

Life Coaching, Servant Leadership, Speaking Topics
Three friends went on a canoe trip. It was a beautiful summer day and the river height was perfect.  The ripples of the water and the current slapping the banks was soothing and added to the wonderful views of wildlife and nature surrounding the three friends and their adventure.   As the day progressed, Bob, who was sitting in the center of the canoe, was getting tired and paddled less and less and finally just left his paddle in the water in fear that Joe, who was in the front of the canoe, and Bill, who was in the rear of the canoe, would notice that Bob was no longer contributing to the progress of the canoe. In fact, he was beginning to be a drag.   At some point…
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Foxhole Friends

Life Coaching, Servant Leadership, Speaking Topics
When I was a kid, my favorite Bible story was that of David and Jonathan. It seems interesting that out of all the colorful, vivacious stories that are painted throughout Scripture—the floods and lions and giants and whales, the multiplication of bread and fish, and miraculous returns to life—my childhood self chose a simple story of friendship.  I’m not sure what it was that made the story of David and Jonathan stand out in my young mind. But looking back on the story, I’m reminded of the exemplary model of friendship that these two men lived.  Jonathan, the son of King Saul, befriended David, the chosen successor of King Saul. As the son of the king, Jonathan could have become jealous of David, feeling he was stealing the throne from…
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