T-H-I-N-K

Life Coaching, Mentoring, Speaking Topics
I recently read Josh Shipp’s book, The Grown-Up’s Guide to Teenage Humans. For anyone who interacts with teenagers—be it parents, teachers, mentors, grandparents, coaches—this is a great resource and tool for learning the needs and communication preferences of teens at every stage of adolescence.  One of the topics Josh addressed is engaging with social media. While he was speaking primarily about teen engagement on the internet, I think this guideline can be a helpful tool for all of us to remember as we post content online, speak to one another, and engage with people of all ages.  Josh shared the following acronym with its reminder to THINK before we post (or speak, etc.). We must ask, is it: T - True? H - Helpful? I - Inspiring? N - Necessary?…
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Think Again

Life Coaching, Mentoring, Speaking Topics
We will eventually do what we think.   This statement is taken directly from one of the Character Development Initiatives that we use at Toward the Goal.  While sharing this with a team I was challenged with several questions. What or who influences my thinking on a regular basis? How do I take captive thoughts that are not helpful? How do I filter my thoughts? What does it take for me to change the way I think? As a leader people will tend to think like you do over time.  One of our daily goals should include a reflection on the day and our thought processes.  We can gain valuable insight when we take the time to reflect and ask the question, Why did I think that way?   Proverbs…
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The Gift that Keeps on Giving

Mentoring, Ministry Opportunities
When you think of a mentor, who comes to mind? Maybe there’s a specific teacher, an aunt, a family friend, a coach, a grandparent, or youth leader who’s spoken into your life, consistently walking alongside you, encouraging you, offering perspective, wisdom, and always a loving, listening ear.  Who have those people been in your life?  January marks National Mentoring Month, a month dedicated to thanking those who have spoken into our lives and considering the impact we too can make on a life if we pass on the gift of mentoring to another.  Not only is mentoring an emotional and relational encouragement—statistics show that mentoring has tangible benefits to individuals who have a mentor: 55% more likely to enroll in college 78% more likely to volunteer regularly 90% are interested…
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Boundaries

Life Coaching, Mentoring, Speaking Topics
Somewhere along the journey I call life I have formed a thought process about God that has really been revealed through reading the book, Boundaries, by Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend.  I have long held a belief that Jesus was longsuffering and somewhat of a doormat with people who he helped to see the light.  Somehow, I had a picture of Jesus waiting around for others and continually going back to the same people. In the book it is said, “All are welcome in the kingdom of Heaven, and yet there will be no unrepentant hearts there.”  This is a clear line that God drew and will never change. God has been showing me that Jesus again and again raised the bar for those around him. They were willing to…
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T-I-M-E: The Currency of Mentoring

Mentoring, Speaking Topics
Upon hearing the word "mentoring," it's easy to misinterpret the meaning behind it all. From a mentor’s perspective, there’s the temptation to put pressure on ourselves to have all the answers. We may feel the need to slip into counselor-mode or to “fix” problems, even to be a flawless example to those we mentor. Students may view it as a subtle implication that they need “help,” or may feel like someone is setting out to change them. Parents may view it as a critique of their parenting or the assumption that their child needs another adult figure, as if they weren’t doing their job well enough. On the other hand, some may hope the mentor slides into a parental or counseling role for their child, giving them a free pass.…
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“Have To” or “Get To”

Life Coaching, Mentoring, Servant Leadership
(Adapted from Jon Gordon article) Who knew that two simple words could change one’s mindset, perspective and approach to work and life? Just two words have the potential to enhance joy, productivity, performance and change a complaining voice to an appreciative heart. So often we say things like, “I have to take the kids to practice.” “I have to go to this meeting.” “I have to finish this project.” “I have to have the conversation to clear things up with them.” “I have to go to work today.” “I have to take care of this customer.” “I have to share these new ideas of change with my team.” We act as if we don’t have a choice. As if we are imprisoned by life, maybe a paycheck and the expectations…
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Perspective Changes Everything

Life Coaching, Mentoring, Speaking Topics
In order to go forward in life, in situations, in emotions, in relationships, in forgiveness, in health, many times we need to change our current perspective. Our mind is one of the greatest weapons we possess. Our thoughts can fuel victory or defeat in every situation. Victory doesn't always look like obtaining the results we want. Victory is being able to shift perspective, lean into Christ and trust Him in the results. Changing perspective comes when we slow down emotionally and step back to take in the entire picture. It means to reframe our situation, come at it from a different angle, and think outside the box. It means asking myself, "What can I learn from this situation?" It means stepping back, identifying lies, detecting our typical patterns of thinking…
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Different Paths, Same Direction

Life Coaching, Mentoring, Speaking Topics
Our third leg of the walk from Clinton to Navarre was quite different than what we anticipated when we left home that morning. One week prior, the surrounding area had experienced intense rain and storms leading to some serious flooding. However, we had no idea that the trail would be under water. Looking at the "lake" before us, we sat in our car and considered our options. Do we postpone our walk and head for home or do we walk the twenty-one mile trek via roads for the next seven hours? How many miles will we walk off course if we follow the roads? How wide is the berm and how dangerous is this going to be with traffic? And most importantly, how often will we see an available rest room? After several minutes and a silent prayer,…
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Don’t Look Back

Life Coaching, Mentoring, Speaking Topics
Our family was hiking the Chimney Tops Trail in the Smokey Mountain National Park. This trail requires a two mile arduous ascent to reach the mountaintop. Because of the intensity of the climb, hikers stop and rest along the way. As we passed one couple who had stopped, I overheard one of them instructing the other raising his hands above his head to demonstrate some type of exercise recovery technique. My interest peaked, and thinking I too could learn something, I wanted to turn around and see what they were doing. But there was no way I could. To take my eyes off of the trail ahead of me would have been dangerous and only inviting injury. The trail was steep with sharp rocks jutting up and outward. Exposed tree roots, uneven terrain, and…
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From One Generation to Another

Mentoring, Servant Leadership
As apostles of Christ…we were gentle among you, like a mother caring for her little children. We loved you so much that we were delighted to share with you not only the gospel of God but our lives as well, because you had become so dear to us….For you know that we dealt with each of you as a father deals with his own children, encouraging, comforting and urging you to live lives worthy of God, who calls you into his kingdom and glory. 1 Thessalonians 2:7-8, 11-12 “YOU CAN DO IT! KEEP GOING, GIRLS. WE’LL BE UP THIS HILL IN NO TIME. THIS IS WHY WE RUN- IT’S ALL ABOUT JESUS!” Sweat dripping down my face and short of breath, I focused on putting one foot in front of…
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