The No Complaining Rule

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One of the most interesting books I’ve read over the past several years is, “The No Complaining Rule” by Jon Gordon. It has really changed my perspective and continues to challenge me with turning my complaints into solutions. The rule is fairly simplistic…We can’t mindlessly complain about something without also providing a potential solution to the problem. Three things really jump out at the reader. 1. I call it the And Yet principle. This simple strategy helps us turn our complaints into positive thoughts, solutions and actions. Here’s how it works… When negativity is heard or felt, simply add the words And Yet, followed by a positive, uplifting statement or perspective. Example: I get tired of washing the dishes, and yet, I’m grateful to have food every day to make…
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Human Trafficking Awareness

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We are not to simply bandage the wounds of victims beneath the wheels of injustice, we are to drive a spoke into the wheel itself. - Dietrich Bonhoeffer Human Trafficking is a form of modern-day slavery where people profit from the control and exploitation of others through force, fraud or coercion, as seen in both the labor and sex industries. The thirty-two billion dollar a year human trafficking industry is one of the fastest growing criminal activities, second only to drug trafficking (US Dept of Justice). Human trafficking happens worldwide, and Ohio now ranks 4th in the nation for human trafficking hotline calls (Ohio Human Trafficking Task Force Report, 2017). EVEN CLOSER TO HOME, VICTIMS HAVE BEEN IDENTIFIED IN TUSCARAWAS COUNTY. Toward the Goal Ministries is a partner of the…
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Partnering with the Tuscarawas County Anti-Human Trafficking Task Force

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Toward the Goal Ministries has been a partner of the Tuscarawas County Anti-Human Trafficking Task Force since it's formation in the summer of 2016. God has laid human trafficking on my heart for years and yet I never knew what to do with it-- it all seemed so overwhelming. I began to explore Rahab Ministries in Akron, a ministry reaching out to the broken women of the city of Akron, and went through their volunteer training. I served a few times but began to wonder if there was human trafficking occurring closer to home, in our county. After much prayer and with confirmation from the Lord I made a phone call to the Domestic Violence Shelter in Tuscarawas County. Yes, our county had a need. Yes, they were seeing victims. It just…
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What advice would you give your younger self?

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Not too long ago, my husband was asked, "What advice would you, as a 48 year old, give your 25 year old self?" I thought it was a great question- one that caused me to reflect on what I have been learning over the past 20 years and sharpens my focus once again of who I am becoming. So on a recent trip to our favorite hiking spot, I had a weekend of reflection with God on this question and this is what came to me. To my 25 year old self, 1. Discover the joy of being you and be confident in it.  There are some that will not like you, or your strengths will make them uncomfortable. This doesn't make you bad or wrong. Keep growing and walking…
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Being a Torch-Passer

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Blog post from Titus 2 Mentoring Women  Today’s guest post is from John Ortberg, author of If You Want to Walk on Water, You Have to Get Out of the Boat,  Everybody’s Normal Till You Get to Know Them, The Me I Want to Be.  John is a pastor at Menlo Park Presbyterian Church in Menlo Park, California. When it comes to spiritual formation, it’s hard to find anything that rivals the impact of a mentor…a ‘torch-bearer’ who becomes a ‘torch-passer’.  We’re all being nudged toward the life of “torch-passer” in the unique way you will express it.  It’s as if God gives this torch of life, this light of life with Him and anytime somebody receives it He says, “Now, I want you to be a keeper of the flame.  I want you to be…
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Beautifully Vulnerable

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“As long as you run from where you are and distract yourself, you cannot fully let yourself be healed. A seed only flourishes by staying in the ground in which it is sown.”            Henri Nouwen One of the most common issues I discuss with young women is how disconnected they feel from themselves. In the midst of work, school, relationships with family and friends and a variety of everyday stresses and pressures, there is a part of them that can close off to survive. And while this may go unnoticed at first, the gap created will eventually make itself known through feelings of emptiness, chronic stress and even depression. It has been an honor to walk with these women as they begin the process of…
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Managing Our Emotions

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Emotions are God-given and are a blessing in that we can experience life- the joys and the sorrows. They can keep us in-tune with what's going on around us and empathetic toward others. Righteous anger can propel us on a mission to bring justice to a cause. However, I think we have all experienced at one time or another (some of us more than once :-) that out of control emotions can get the best of us. Out of control emotions can blind us to truth, cloud our thinking or do some damage in our relationships. In order to manage our emotions we can incorporate an action plan. We can train our brains to do things differently. The key is slowing down. Whatever it may be: anger, shame, embarrassment, anxiety,…
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It’s more the WHO than the DO

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“It’s more the WHO than the DO.” Young athletes must understand it’s much more important who they are, than what they do. If they get this order wrong it’s very dangerous because they will be building an identity around something that can easily be taken away. (One injury will do it.) Their “doing” is based on performance and we know that, like Bruce Springsteen, one day their “Glory Days” of high school athletics will come to an end. However, “who” they are speaks of them as a person and we know that they will take this person with them wherever they go in life. If they never form a healthy identity of “who” they are, they will never reach full maturity. (Think Stability and Security over Statistics.) Speaker Tim Elmore…
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Game Changers! Bring change to the way you think and live

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[caption id="attachment_269" align="alignleft" width="167"] Download Game Changers for FREE![/caption] “Let the wise listen and add to their learning and let the discerning get guidance.”   Proverbs 1:5 Over the years in my various leadership positions of coaching, mentoring, pastoring, counseling and parenting, I have had the privilege of facilitating and participating in many leadership learning initiatives. I’ve done my best to add to my learning and to get guidance as the above proverb states by utilizing my two ears and one mouth in that ratio. If you know me, you know that’s hard for me sometimes, but I’ve tried. As I’ve listened to many people, I’ve also collected a lot of chicken scratch notes and have quickly jotted down thoughts and ideas which would pop into my head while reading or engaging in…
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Insights to Live By….

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I've always told our teenage boys, "Don't peak in high school." However, with all the hoopla and attention we adults give to this age group, it's easy for them to believe they're celebrities. The more I've unpacked this over the years, I'm convinced this is more about the adults feeling good about what "their" kids can do for them than anything else. The teenage years are "seed years" and are meant for trial and error, for lumps and lessons and for growth and development into the young adults they will become. They don't need more hoopla and attention, they simply need Unconditional Love from their parents and other caring adults.  
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