Beautifully Vulnerable

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“As long as you run from where you are and distract yourself, you cannot fully let yourself be healed. A seed only flourishes by staying in the ground in which it is sown.”            Henri Nouwen One of the most common issues I discuss with young women is how disconnected they feel from themselves. In the midst of work, school, relationships with family and friends and a variety of everyday stresses and pressures, there is a part of them that can close off to survive. And while this may go unnoticed at first, the gap created will eventually make itself known through feelings of emptiness, chronic stress and even depression. It has been an honor to walk with these women as they begin the process of…
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Managing Our Emotions

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Emotions are God-given and are a blessing in that we can experience life- the joys and the sorrows. They can keep us in-tune with what's going on around us and empathetic toward others. Righteous anger can propel us on a mission to bring justice to a cause. However, I think we have all experienced at one time or another (some of us more than once :-) that out of control emotions can get the best of us. Out of control emotions can blind us to truth, cloud our thinking or do some damage in our relationships. In order to manage our emotions we can incorporate an action plan. We can train our brains to do things differently. The key is slowing down. Whatever it may be: anger, shame, embarrassment, anxiety,…
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It’s more the WHO than the DO

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“It’s more the WHO than the DO.” Young athletes must understand it’s much more important who they are, than what they do. If they get this order wrong it’s very dangerous because they will be building an identity around something that can easily be taken away. (One injury will do it.) Their “doing” is based on performance and we know that, like Bruce Springsteen, one day their “Glory Days” of high school athletics will come to an end. However, “who” they are speaks of them as a person and we know that they will take this person with them wherever they go in life. If they never form a healthy identity of “who” they are, they will never reach full maturity. (Think Stability and Security over Statistics.) Speaker Tim Elmore…
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Game Changers! Bring change to the way you think and live

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[caption id="attachment_269" align="alignleft" width="167"] Download Game Changers for FREE![/caption] “Let the wise listen and add to their learning and let the discerning get guidance.”   Proverbs 1:5 Over the years in my various leadership positions of coaching, mentoring, pastoring, counseling and parenting, I have had the privilege of facilitating and participating in many leadership learning initiatives. I’ve done my best to add to my learning and to get guidance as the above proverb states by utilizing my two ears and one mouth in that ratio. If you know me, you know that’s hard for me sometimes, but I’ve tried. As I’ve listened to many people, I’ve also collected a lot of chicken scratch notes and have quickly jotted down thoughts and ideas which would pop into my head while reading or engaging in…
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Insights to Live By….

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I've always told our teenage boys, "Don't peak in high school." However, with all the hoopla and attention we adults give to this age group, it's easy for them to believe they're celebrities. The more I've unpacked this over the years, I'm convinced this is more about the adults feeling good about what "their" kids can do for them than anything else. The teenage years are "seed years" and are meant for trial and error, for lumps and lessons and for growth and development into the young adults they will become. They don't need more hoopla and attention, they simply need Unconditional Love from their parents and other caring adults.  
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Grace Driven Holiness

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As we think about celebrating the birth of Christ this Christmas, we can’t help but think of a stable and a manger. But this Christmas, all I can think about is a cross. I think we can all relate when I say that the human condition lends itself to trying to earn God’s acceptance by what we “do”, by meeting expectations or by our performance. Our focus can become self-centered and we can be driven by keeping rules, a check-list of what we are or are not doing. Some of us may hope our good deeds outweigh our bad, some of us may fear failing or the disapproval of others. Some of us may deal with perfectionism because doing it “perfectly” makes us somehow more pleasing. I think all of…
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Secure to Serve

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Our teenage son is a coach through and through. When he sets a goal for himself, he is disciplined and committed to reach it, no matter what it is. He works hard and puts the time in, and because of that, he sees results. Because he is wired with leadership ability, he motivates others to set goals and follow through. When he heard me talking about working out, he felt compelled to create a plan for me for the next two months. He would ask me every day if I had done my workout, giving me an encouraging word if I had followed through. One evening after it was already dark outside, I sat in the kitchen talking to him as he finished doing the dishes. As usual he asked…
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Cravings and Contentment

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Unfortunately, we all have the natural tendency to deal with a "rabble spirit," eyes that look to the negative and a heart of ingratitude and self-sufficiency. Exploring the OT story of Numbers 11, we see a generous God who gave everything the Israelites needed, but they continued to want something else. It's a lesson that challenges our own hearts, but we can find hope and the solution to combating our grumbling in learning contentment. Join Bruce and Jocelyn as they explore "Cravings and Contentment." https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/cco-craving-and-contentment/id623366602?i=345394868&mt=2
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“Have To” or “Get To”

Life Coaching, Mentoring, Servant Leadership
(Adapted from Jon Gordon article) Who knew that two simple words could change one’s mindset, perspective and approach to work and life? Just two words have the potential to enhance joy, productivity, performance and change a complaining voice to an appreciative heart. So often we say things like, “I have to take the kids to practice.” “I have to go to this meeting.” “I have to finish this project.” “I have to have the conversation to clear things up with them.” “I have to go to work today.” “I have to take care of this customer.” “I have to share these new ideas of change with my team.” We act as if we don’t have a choice. As if we are imprisoned by life, maybe a paycheck and the expectations…
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Bouncing Back from a Failure

Life Coaching
Many of us are afraid to fail which can hinder our growth and even paralyze us in making decisions. But take into account these words of wisdom from psychologist, Dr. Ryan Dunn. Everybody fails…. With things big or small, sooner or later, in private or (embarrassing) in public, with projects or relationships, we all fail. So the skill of bouncing back from a failure is one that is important to develop, to help us get back on track over and over and over…. A recent study in the journal Anxiety, Stress & Coping, found the most effective ways of bouncing back are positive reframing, acceptance, and humor. These helped people recover the fastest and still feel most satisfied at the end of the day. Positive reframing is thinking about a situation…
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