October 2019 Book Recommendations

Book Reviews, Servant Leadership
Mindset: How We Can Learn to Fulfill Our Potential - Dr. Carol Dweck Dr. Carol Dweck shares the difference between a fixed and growth mindset and the importance of choosing which we will use in our daily lives. Most people operate from both, but we tend to lean toward one mindset over the other. Those with a fixed mindset believe they are stuck where they are with no hope of change. Those with a growth mindset believe they have the ability to change and can tap into greater potential. Our thoughts determine how we act, so the mindset we choose to live from directly influences much of our lives. This book is a challenge to reevaluate our minds and how we’re choosing to think; it can also be a great…
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Finding a Friend in Failure

Life Coaching, Servant Leadership, Speaking Topics
There once was a man who, once a week, posed the same question to his children across the dinner table: “How have you failed this week?” he would ask. When his kids struggled to come up with an answer, or realized they did not, in fact, fail at all this week, the father would challenge them: “You’re not taking enough risks,” he’d say, and encourage them to take the risk of failing the following week. I don’t know if you’re at all like me, but I tend to take pride in my fail-free weeks. Failure isn’t something I tend to include in my list of hopes and dreams, and quite frankly, I don’t prefer to flaunt my failures or announce them to the world when they do happen. It’s not…
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Building Trust and Relationships

Life Coaching, Mentoring, Servant Leadership, Speaking Topics
Trust is defined as “assured reliance on the character, ability, strength, or truth of someone or something.” It’s been said that “We don’t attract what we wish, we attract what we are.” If we want to attract trustworthy people, WE must display these qualities first. We cannot command a person to believe in our character or our ability to lead. Lewis Cass was right when he said, “People will doubt what you say and believe what you do.” How do we build and nurture trust?  The answer is in building relationships with members of the organization. We may tend to think of relationships with fellow employees as less important than our personal relationships. However, we spend one third of our days with the people we work with. It seems wise then that to cultivate these relationships would put…
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We Need Each Other: Lessons from the Patience Principle

Life Coaching, Mentoring, Servant Leadership
The Patience Principle - The journey with others is slower than the journey alone.  I experienced the reality of this principle recently when I was traveling abroad with my husband, my parents, my brother, and my grandparents. Of the seven of us, most had little to no international travel experience coming into the trip, but my grandparents had been to our destination many times. They knew the routes, the towns, they knew where we’d be going, what we’d be doing, and the people we would meet up with. And they were TSA pre-checked.  Had it been just the two of them traveling, they would have zoomed through the airport and been off on their way. Yet their patience prevailed when we all, in small waves of two or three, slowly…
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Recommendations from the TTG Book Shelf this Month:

Life Coaching, Ministry Opportunities, Servant Leadership
In order for us to grow and give to others, we need to stay intentional about pouring into ourselves. We also know that takes time and intentionality, so we thought we would pass along several recommendations we have read over the past month in case you have been looking for some great reads. Be challenged and inspired to apply to your own life and enjoy!  Nehemiah (Bible)  Nehemiah shows us an example of what a prayerful leader looks like while encountering opposition, trusting God and moving forward with a plan.  The Last Arrow: Save Nothing for the Next Life by Erwin MacManus Drawing from the life and story of Elisha, MacManus offers a challenge to all of us to live our lives to the fullest, to stop wasting time and…
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The Five Actions of Great Leaders

Life Coaching, Servant Leadership, Speaking Topics
Developing leadership potential can seem like a daunting challenge. In his book, The Five Temptations of a CEO, Patrick Lencioni simplifies the art of leadership by describing five active characteristics of great leaders. 1. Building Trust  Great leaders know that vulnerability builds trust. They acknowledge their own weaknesses first; people already know them anyway. Authentically acknowledging their own mistakes and growth areas builds trust with the team. 2. Establishing Healthy Conflict  Great leaders don’t passively choose harmony over conflict. They seek to be peacemakers, rather than merely peacekeepers. They allow and encourage collaborative, engaging discussions to take place.  3. Providing Clarity   Great leaders commit to commitments by establishing parameters upfront. Deadlines are great accountability partners, plus Clarity reduces Confusion.  4. Holding People Accountable  Great leaders don’t choose popularity over accountability…
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Canoe Trips

Life Coaching, Servant Leadership, Speaking Topics
Three friends went on a canoe trip. It was a beautiful summer day and the river height was perfect.  The ripples of the water and the current slapping the banks was soothing and added to the wonderful views of wildlife and nature surrounding the three friends and their adventure.   As the day progressed, Bob, who was sitting in the center of the canoe, was getting tired and paddled less and less and finally just left his paddle in the water in fear that Joe, who was in the front of the canoe, and Bill, who was in the rear of the canoe, would notice that Bob was no longer contributing to the progress of the canoe. In fact, he was beginning to be a drag.   At some point…
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Foxhole Friends

Life Coaching, Servant Leadership, Speaking Topics
When I was a kid, my favorite Bible story was that of David and Jonathan. It seems interesting that out of all the colorful, vivacious stories that are painted throughout Scripture—the floods and lions and giants and whales, the multiplication of bread and fish, and miraculous returns to life—my childhood self chose a simple story of friendship.  I’m not sure what it was that made the story of David and Jonathan stand out in my young mind. But looking back on the story, I’m reminded of the exemplary model of friendship that these two men lived.  Jonathan, the son of King Saul, befriended David, the chosen successor of King Saul. As the son of the king, Jonathan could have become jealous of David, feeling he was stealing the throne from…
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Happy or Healthy?

Life Coaching, Servant Leadership, Speaking Topics
“My name is Bruce and I’m a recovering people-pleaser.” In the past, I would spend the majority of my time keeping people happy… while remaining frustrated at the lack of progress and growth. I discovered that the happier I tried to keep people, the more unhealthy things became—both within the organization, and within myself. I’ve also seen this a lot in the many organizations and teams that I’ve spent time with, in the workplace and beyond. This is what has propelled me to move toward and promote what I’m finding to be a huge culture shift needed in our homes, businesses, churches and organizations. The Culture Shift: Moving from a Happy Culture to a Healthy Culture. Giving candy to your kids to quiet them down will make them happy, but not…
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Learning and Leading

Life Coaching, Servant Leadership, Speaking Topics
My desire is to learn something from each person I come in contact with on a daily basis, whether for a few minutes or hours. A couple weeks ago I was engaging with another individual through one-on-one coaching, and I came away forever challenged with a statement this gentleman shared with me.   The question was simple: What is the difference between confidence and arrogance?  He sat up straight cleared his throat and, with a clear and confident voice, spoke these words: “Confidence is quiet and arrogance is loud.”  I will admit the initial statement was zipping through my mind at a high rate of speed, then everything slowed down. I began to process this simple phrase, and will continue to in the coming weeks.     As I process this…
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